Working Hard to Enjoy Her Life
Carol McGrath, at the age of 57, has lived in Southern Minnesota for the majority of her life. She has two grown sons and an adorable granddaughter, whom she loves to babysit. She enjoys camping, going for walks, crafts, trying new recipes, going to movies, and reading. Carol likes spending time with good friends and making new friends.
With all of these changes, came a new job. Carol works in her field, in a temporary position, she has been in for several months. Her family has helped her make this transition in her livelihood. Carol enjoys working hard and earning a living that allows her a sense of value and more independence.
Carol has been working hard these past six months. She left a difficult marriage, moved into her own apartment, focused on her relationship with her adult children, and is making a great effort in her personal growth.
She says learning to set good boundaries has helped her a lot. She has learned to keep difficult people at arm’s length, and take care of herself first. She has learned that she has the power to say “it doesn’t work for me” rather than always giving in to what others want. Carol is focusing on understanding she is only in charge of herself. As much as she wishes, at times, she could change the behavior of others; she realizes she is only in charge of herself.
Carol has become much more confident and believes more in herself since she has been working on her self-esteem. She now believes she deserves to be treated as well as anyone else. She has become more assertive, standing up for what she needs and wants, rather than letting others take advantage of her good nature.
Carol has worked on her self-confidence and motivation to keep going when things get tough. She is becoming comfortable being alone, and enjoys making more independent decisions regarding her finances and lifestyle choices. She has a clearer picture of what she wants her life to look like, and she strives to be happy and relaxed in her daily life.
She is working to build her social network and keeps in touch with her sons and their families, as well as spending time with good friends. She says even when she is lonely, she is still happy. She enjoys being around people, and realizes she is responsible for building healthy relationships in her life.
Carol recommends attending Life Work Planning Center workshops and working individually with a peer counselor. She feels it has helped move her towards happiness and healthiness. She is currently focusing on personal freedom and independence. She sums it up by saying, “I am happy and I am responsible for my happiness.”
– Jill Hahn, M.S., Peer Counselor