They thought it was a resource for others but found it was for them too!
Shawna Asendorf and Diane Hudson both attended the Fall Personal Growth and Career Development workshop series in St. James. They both were curious and thought that it sounded interesting although neither of them felt that they themselves particularly needed a lot of work on the topics. I met with them a couple of months following the series to reflect on their learning.
These are the topics that they saw were going to be covered and some of Shawna and Diane’s thoughts about them:
- Personality Styles
- Assertive Communication
Diane commented on how she had been on her own growing up and said, “I never had anyone walk me through life.” When asked to elaborate she said that her parents were busy and aside from some things that she was told to do, that she was not given direction. Learning about these topics and how they all fit together was more like an “owner’s manual” on creating a direction in life rather than passively letting life happen.
The following are some of their comments:
“It’s a good way to come to a better understanding of yourself”
“I was so used to fixing things, now I’m learning to let go”
“I’m able to make choices and feel comfortable about them”
“Learning about communication styles changed how I react to the world around me”
“I got rid of a lot of ‘shoulds'”
“It took a lot of guilt and anxiety away”
“Career-wise – It’s not too late to make a change.”
“No matter what happened to you in your life you can move forward”
“Instead of focusing on your weaknesses, focus on your strengths!”
Shawna works with at-risk teenagers through the St. James school district and said that she is planning to revise her program to implement some of the essential skills that she learned.
Diane has come up with a list of goals that she is implementing as well.
Both Shawna and Diane said that they get their handouts out every once in a while and reread them and both women hope that by telling of their experience it will encourage other women to take the workshop series and work with a Peer Counselor.
What started out as a search for resources for others became a resource for their own growth!
– Sarah Torvick, Peer Counselor